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. Have you ever found yourself saying things like

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Have you ever found yourself saying things like...

"You should have known that without me having to tell you"

or

"How could you not have known that would upset me?"

If so, you may have placed an unrealistic expectation on the other party. How can someone else know exactly what you are thinking or how you will feel without communicating that to them.

When you expect someone to "just know", you are hurting your own feelings when they don't deliver as you expected.

Instead, try this:

📍 Directly tell the person what you need from them

We may feel uncomfortable with the vulnerability that comes with openly admitting our needs but being open and honest (not hinting) with them about our needs, clears up any confusion.
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. Our 2nd annual Yoga in the Park is on the way. I

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. As we continue our mission with Flamingo @meetfl

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As we continue our mission with Flamingo @meetflamingo to shine light on body autonomy, Lauren answered some of your questions sent in. Stay tuned for more Q & As ❤️

Have more questions about body image? DM us! ❤️

New month. New Read. Add this one to your list, es

New month. New Read. Add this one to your list, especially with the holidays near.

Have you read this one? What are your thoughts? 👇🏾

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. Intention this month: Being more aware of self

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Intention this month:
Being more aware of self

Affirmation:
This month I will be more mindful of what I reinforce with others and myself. I will not bend for things that do not align with my values, beliefs, or goals.

Which one are you working on this month? 👇🏿

. Starting the week off right with an intentional

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Starting the week off right with an intentional affirmation ✨

Happy Monday!!!

. Give yourself permission to rest. Give your mind

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Give yourself permission to rest. Give your mind a break and be intentional about pouring into yourself ❤️

How are u resting day?

🎥: @candicedenise

#blackfemaletherapists #bft #blackmentalhealth #rest #sundayvibes

. •Think Long-Term Impulsively responding is on

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•Think Long-Term
Impulsively responding is only for the now not the long term. Think, how will this benefit me in the long run? Will this be beneficial to this issue?
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•Write It Down
This helps to reflect and come up with the best reply instead of being impulsive
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•Pause Before Responding
Slowing down and processing your thoughts is always a good idea before a quick response
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•Take A Break
Is the conversation becoming too much to handle? Taking a break is a proactive way to calm yourself before having the conversation. Remember to give it a time (ex. Give me 10 mins pls) and be sure to stick to it
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•Use “I” Statements
Using “I” statements can help keep the focus on your feelings instead of unfair accusations. Focusing on explaining what you need and/or your emotions is a better way of communication
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•Ask For A Reframe
If what the other person is saying is triggering you, you can ask for them to reword what they are saying so you can understand better

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What do you do to listen without getting defensive? 🤔

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